There are losses that the world immediately recognizes. When someone dies, people gather. Flowers arrive at the door. Meals are delivered. Condolences are offered. There is a shared understanding that something significant has happened, and that grief belongs there. But there are other losses that receive no such acknowledgment. The relationship that ends after years […]

When Life Doesn’t Look the Way You Thought It Would

Sometimes this fear is spoken aloud. More often, it lives quietly beneath the surface of everyday life. Months pass, sometimes years, and a familiar wave of sadness arrives unexpectedly—a song in the grocery store, an empty chair at a holiday gathering, a birthday that no longer feels like a celebration. In those moments, people often […]

One of the greatest fears people carry after losing someone they love is that the grief will never end.

One of the questions I hear from new mothers more than almost any other is, “When will I feel like myself again?” It’s an understandable question. Life after having a baby can feel almost unrecognizable. The rhythms that once shaped your days disappear overnight. Your body feels different. Your relationships shift. Time, energy, sleep, work, […]

You Don’t Have to Become Who You Were Before

They look at their baby and know, without question, that they would choose this life again. They feel immense gratitude for the child they’ve longed for, protected, and welcomed into the world. Yet beneath that love, there is sometimes another feeling—quieter, more difficult to admit. A sense that somewhere along the way, they have become […]

There is a particular kind of grief that can accompany becoming a mother, and because it exists alongside profound love, many women struggle to name it.