When people think about trauma, they often think about memory. They imagine certain events becoming difficult to forget—moments that continue intruding into the present long after they’ve ended. Memory is certainly part of trauma’s story, but I don’t think it’s the part that shapes us most profoundly. Long after specific moments begin to fade, something […]

(And Why It Still Makes Sense Today) When people first begin therapy, they’re often surprised by how much they already know about themselves. They know their anxiety didn’t appear out of nowhere. They understand why conflict feels threatening, why criticism lingers for days, or why trusting other people has never come easily. Many have spent […]

There is a particular kind of frustration that seems unique to therapy. It isn’t the frustration of not understanding yourself. In fact, it often belongs to people who understand themselves remarkably well. They know why they become anxious before difficult conversations. They can trace their perfectionism back to childhood, recognize the roots of their people-pleasing, […]

A phrase you may hear me use often is “your body is your subconscious mind”, hinting at the important connection between our physical selves and our deepest, often hidden, mental and emotional states. But what does this really mean, and how does our body hold onto memories, information, and even trauma? I want to take […]